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Respect your limits

Limits. It’s an ugly word in 2021. Whether we are flying into space, creating a vaccine or running a marathon, we are increasingly taught to ignore our limits. Limits are for losers. True grit. Man up. Brace. Never give up. Keep on smiling. It’s the soundtrack of success. Until it’s not. Recognising our limits isContinue reading “Respect your limits”

Find the key

All abuse relationships are a trade. A poor trade, an unfair trade but still – a trade. Looking at abusive relationships in this way frees us from both the victim and the survivor labels – but it’s controversial. Why? Because blame is always lurking at the door if we consider these relationships in the lightContinue reading “Find the key”

It felt safe until it didn’t

Post lockdown, there is now no collective grief. Post lockdown, there is now no mourning for what we lost. Post lockdown, there is now only chaos and rush and busy. In the West this looks like this – Ignoring the death of old structures. Been in a hospital lately? Tried to get a GP appointment?Continue reading “It felt safe until it didn’t”

I want you back

One of the reasons I listen to Spotify and not to radio is that I can control my mind. Most pop music is about not being able to love or breathe without someone who just fucked off. Or how to get that person back. (I want you back.) I can’t think, breathe or sleep untilContinue reading “I want you back”

I want love

I’ve lived my life saying ‘I want love’ and I’ve always believed that I needed it. Now. After 2 divorces, am I missing something? And what sort of love do I need? There’s a great scene in Rocket Man (Elton John’s biopic) where he hugs himself as a little boy. That little kid had beenContinue reading “I want love”

I want it, I got it

I want it. I got it. I want it. I got it. Repeat. New car. New clothes. New shoes. Holiday. Christmas. Birthday. Repeat. Repeat, Repeat. Repeat, Pause……I want it. I got it. I want it. I got it. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Pause…. What happens in the pause? And when do we pause? I don’t knowContinue reading “I want it, I got it”

4 years sober

Four years on – who are you now?  We become what you think about – your mindset creates your reality. 5 hard lessons learnt. by Alice Smith. Sobriety takes courage Courage is heart strength. We can get discouraged (lose heart) and we can aim to get to a point where we can encourage others soContinue reading “4 years sober”