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Sweet shop

In part 7 of her series from the hospital bed Alice asks – what’s your pill? What’s your pill? Is it sweet? Is it bitter? Stout? Or mild? Drink as a child, Mum.gives you the willing glass, Dad pours it with a knowing wink. Pause. They both helped you not to think. Does cocaine turnContinue reading “Sweet shop”

Find the key

All abuse relationships are a trade. A poor trade, an unfair trade but still – a trade. Looking at abusive relationships in this way frees us from both the victim and the survivor labels – but it’s controversial. Why? Because blame is always lurking at the door if we consider these relationships in the lightContinue reading “Find the key”

361 Sober – first steps

What are the first steps of sobriety? For me, it’s all about emotional evolution. It’s possible we have emotional gaps from our drinking, our childhood and/or our schooldays. We may have to go back and learn, relearn or unlearn how to manage and express our feelings. When we get sober, it all seems so awkward.Continue reading “361 Sober – first steps”

I want love

I’ve lived my life saying ‘I want love’ and I’ve always believed that I needed it. Now. After 2 divorces, am I missing something? And what sort of love do I need? There’s a great scene in Rocket Man (Elton John’s biopic) where he hugs himself as a little boy. That little kid had beenContinue reading “I want love”

I want it, I got it

I want it. I got it. I want it. I got it. Repeat. New car. New clothes. New shoes. Holiday. Christmas. Birthday. Repeat. Repeat, Repeat. Repeat, Pause……I want it. I got it. I want it. I got it. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Pause…. What happens in the pause? And when do we pause? I don’t knowContinue reading “I want it, I got it”

4 years sober

Four years on – who are you now?  We become what you think about – your mindset creates your reality. 5 hard lessons learnt. by Alice Smith. Sobriety takes courage Courage is heart strength. We can get discouraged (lose heart) and we can aim to get to a point where we can encourage others soContinue reading “4 years sober”