Respect your limits

Limits. It’s an ugly word in 2021. Whether we are flying into space, creating a vaccine or running a marathon, we are increasingly taught to ignore our limits. Limits are for losers. True grit. Man up. Brace. Never give up. Keep on smiling. It’s the soundtrack of success. Until it’s not. Recognising our limits is

I have to drink

We convince ourselves we have real choice when really….we never do. Think back. Look in the mirror. You will see that all that talk of choice is just that – talk. We are led by our emotions every time. We are weak. Even I felt weak Out Here – but that was simply because I

Sobriety is a good electrician

‘Doing the work’ in sobriety doesn’t always improve our present but it does reframe our past. It builds a better future self (not slimmer, richer or with 10k followers no – more aligned to our core values.) Doing the work is futuring. It’s Beyond. Horizons arealways moving in sobriety. But instead of Boris moving the

We are beyond

Victim, survivor, what lies beyond? In some ways we are living in the beyond now. We are beyond survivor. We are beyond COVID. We are beyond climate change. With all this in mind, we could begin to look beyond our own lifetime. Futuring is beyond. We are beyond now, we are in Wonderland, we are

Lazarus

Have you ever wondered how Lazarus got on with his life after the story ends? You know the story, right? Lazarus has died. It was ‘his time. Jesus had other ideas. After 3 days of mourning, he rolls back the stone and out he comes – ta dah! Jesus moves off and we never find

361 Sober – first steps

What are the first steps of sobriety? For me, it’s all about emotional evolution. It’s possible we have emotional gaps from our drinking, our childhood and/or our schooldays. We may have to go back and learn, relearn or unlearn how to manage and express our feelings. When we get sober, it all seems so awkward.

I want love

I’ve lived my life saying ‘I want love’ and I’ve always believed that I needed it. Now. After 2 divorces, am I missing something? And what sort of love do I need? There’s a great scene in Rocket Man (Elton John’s biopic) where he hugs himself as a little boy. That little kid had been

Beauty Hunter

You beautiful thing Believe in beauty, believe in it when every ray of sunshine shows you cobwebs, when everyone tells you there is none and it has gone, don’t listen. Grasp beauty that no one else sees. Hold on to beauty, carry it with grace. Search for beauty, look for it daily. Look for it

4 years sober

Four years on – who are you now?  We become what you think about – your mindset creates your reality. 5 hard lessons learnt. by Alice Smith. Sobriety takes courage Courage is heart strength. We can get discouraged (lose heart) and we can aim to get to a point where we can encourage others so

Sit with what is dying

There is an ancient practice that – up until the 1970’s-  we have observed in our lives. Sitting with the dying. It’s only with the advent of medical intervention that we stopped. Is this progress? Now most people die in sterile unfriendly atmospheres such as NHS wards or hospices or nursing homes. Now most people